On this Midwinter’s weekend, as we all relax into the festive season, it’s been a joy to revisit Ellison and Shannon’s autumnal wedding ceremony in the moody and breathtakingly beautiful Assynt landscape.
Ellison and Shannon travelled to Scotland from the USA to make their life promises to each other on the exact day of their seven year anniversary. From their first hockey game date to Ellison proposing to Shannon after an epic three-peak, six-hour hike in North Carolina, the cornerstones of their relationship have remained the same – planning adventures (big and small), and making each other laugh. So, it felt apt that Shannon and Ellison should choose a wild and windswept location in a remote pocket of the Scottish Highlands for their romantic, heartfelt ceremony.
The short, muddy hike across the heather moorland to the shores of the sandy Loch na Gainmhich was well worth it for the peaceful solitude and stunning views of the impressive Allt Chranaid Waterfall.
We began the ceremony with a grounding Oathing Stone ritual.
Ellison and Shannon had chosen to have two Oathing Stones and, as they placed all four hands on their Oathing Stones, they paused to reflect on their journey so far, and their hopes and dreams for the future.
Your Oathing Stones will bear witness to your ceremony today, carrying stories of your time together, of your love and commitment.
After the ceremony, you will return one stone to the sea and this Oathing Stone will begin its own journey, a symbol of your love that will exist beyond the lives of all of us here today. The other stone you shall keep as a symbol of your love and a reminder of the words, promises and commitments you are sharing with each other today.
We shared stories of Ellison and Shannon’s time together and their many wonderful adventures: hiking the hills near home; travelling to new cultures and places; enjoying fall in Vermont; countless amazing concert and hockey games; walking on the beach together at night.
We reflected on their love, how they support each other in all things and are thoughtful and sensitive to each other’s needs, always shifting and moulding around each other to make life easier for each other. And how they potentially love their “big stinky muppet dogs”, Ember and Riley, more than they do each other.
“Our love feels comfortable and warm and we always have a safe place to land in each other.”
Shannon and Ellison made personal vows to one another and gifted each other a ring. They paused to listen to one of Shannon’s favourite readings, Shakespeare’s Sonnet 116, Let Me Not to the Marriage of True Minds before declaring their Life Promises with a Handfasting.
Their Handfasting cords were the colours of fall, reflecting their favourite season and symbolising embracing change, comfort and balance.
We closed their ceremony with a traditional Celtic blessing as Shannon and Ellison toasted their future.
“May you both be blessed with the curiosity of the universe, the brightness of the stars, and the brilliance of the moon. May you have the strength of fire, speed of lightning, quickness of wind, deepness of the sea, stability of earth, and the endurance of rock. May your joys be as sweet as spring flowers and as radiant as the summer sun. May the shower of autumn leaves bring to you everlasting hope and fortune, and may your love be resilient amidst the long winter nights.”
After the ceremony, Ellison and Shannon returned one of their Oathing Stones to the loch. Then they shared several beautiful hours exploring the Assynt countryside together before enjoying a delicious meal at the Kylesku Lodges.
“Our wedding day was private and beautiful and included all of our favourite things. We couldn’t have wished for more.”
Congratulations Ellison and Shannon. It was such a joy to celebrate your Marriage with you both and I wish you, Ember and Riley – and your Beta fish! – all the best for your future together. Slàinte Mhath!
Thank you to Lina Hayes for these stunning photos that beautifully capture the tranquility and joy of Shannon and Ellison’s day.
Caitlin and Lewis visited Mellon Udrigle Beach in Wester Ross many years ago with their beloved dog, Lilo, and fell in love with the place. So, it felt even more special that they made their life promises to each other in this stunning location with Lilo’s brother, Stitch, and an intimate gathering of their dearest family as their witnesses.
Their May wedding day was blessed with sunlit warmth and epic views. We gathered in a sheltered spot overlooking the white sandy bay where there is a natural rocky promontory. As their piper played rousing Highland songs, Caitlin walked through the dunes, accompanied by her dad, to where Lewis was waiting.
We began the ceremony with a ring blessing and Oathing Stone ritual. As the romantic sounds of Skye Boat Song echoed across the bay, Lewis and Caitlin held their Oathing Stone between their joined hands and reflected on all that had brought them to this place and this moment.
During this grounding pause, their rings were passed among the gathering. Each person was invited to hold Lewis and Caitlin’s wedding bands, in their hands or close to their heart, and imbue in the rings any private thoughts, wishes, or blessings that they wish to give to them both.
We heard stories of Caitlin and Lewis’ time together. How they both felt such a deep sense of belonging in each other’s company that within just two weeks of meeting each other, they had moved in together.
They bonded over their similar outlook on life, shared values and interests. It was clear to them both that they had been brought up in a familiar way; to enjoy and appreciate the important things in life. Caitlin’s family experiencing nature through sailing holidays and Lewis’ family heading out into the wilds in their converted minibus. And discovering that both their families shared a devotion to motorcycling!
You’ve motorcyled around Sardinia together, explored the beautiful coasts on two wheels with the exhilarating breeze in your faces. You have spent countless days and weeks on the road in your van, enjoying the beautiful Outer Hebrides – your favourite trip with Lilo. Running in the fresh, white sands. That feeling of complete freedom and adventure. You both dream of many more adventures together.
Family is really important to Lewis and Caitlin and it felt important that their parents share some words of wisdom and give their blessings to them both for their shared future.
We spoke about the commitment that Caitlin and Lewis were choosing to make to one another. How they already felt as though they were married; how declaring their love and making their life promises was an affirmation of all that they have shared and are promising to share in their lives going forward. Marriage is the natural declaration of their love to each other, their families, to the world.
Caitlin, when Lewis proposed in May last year on a trip to Islay, it wasn’t unexpected but it was a lovely surprise. Of course, there had been some hints from the parents and Caitlin, you had certainly made clear for several years that if Lewis were to ask you, you wouldn’t say no!
Even so, when you walked the narrow, stony path to the Carraig Fhada Lighthouse together, with the sea lapping on either side of you, and the skies clear and bright, and Lewis got down on one knee, holding out the beautiful ring that had belonged to his grandmother, and asked you to marry him, you were overjoyed.
Caitlin and Lewis shared personal words and vows with each other before gifting each other their rings. They sealed their Marriage Vows a kiss to the heartfelt cheers and applause of their dear family.
We closed the ceremony with a Quaich ritual; Caitlin and Lewis toasting their future together as we all wished them well.
May you have many wonderful adventures in the years to come, vamping and motorcycling your way around the world, with all the love and happiness you could wish for.
It was such a joyful honour to declare Caitlin and Lewis married in this special place and to share time with them both with their sweet dog, Stitch, and their warm and welcoming families.
Congratulations to you both, Lewis and Caitlin. Thank you for sharing these gorgeous snippets of your day with us all. Thank you to Josh at Folk Storie Photography for these stunning pics.
“At this moment, time is suspended, you are speaking now for all times of your life.”
Alain de Botton
Beinn Eighe Nature Reserve is known for its corries of ‘snow-in-summer’ quartzite, magnificent mountain peaks and ridges. Rising to more than a thousand metres, this was the first national nature reserve to be established in the UK. Home to remnants of ancient Caledonian pine forest, this magical place harbours birch, holly, rowan, oak, and Scots pine trees that are almost 400 years old.
When Alice and Ivan contacted me many moons ago saying they wished to elope to Wester Ross, with two friends as their witnesses, to a place with a heart, that has beautiful views, that makes for a fun hike – not too challenging, not too fleeting – the Mountain Trail at Beinn Eighe seemed the perfect place.
On an unexpectedly glorious late September day, we hiked through the ancient pines in Coille na Glas Leitir, up the rugged juniper and moss heath-covered slopes enjoying breathtaking views across Loch Maree. I had originally suggested a ceremony point where the trees shelter the often fierce winds, just above the midge line, with views across to mighty Slioch, a broad shouldered munro that stands sentinel above the loch.
When we reached our planned spot, we were all having such a wonderful time, and the weather so embracing, we stripped off our thermals, chugged back some water, and decided to continue to the trail’s highest point.
The wonder of a wedding wander is that the joy, exhilaration, camaraderie and discovery of the day become entwined with the ceremony itself. The whole experience makes for a slow-paced, rewarding, and beautifully memorable wedding adventure.
Alice and Ivan wished for their ceremony to be held in one location along the hike, so that we could settle into the feel of the place, so they could have a place they could return to, a place that marked their love and commitment.
We all had a tremendous time hiking the trail together, enjoying the shifting habitat from temperate rainforest, to scree covered slopes, pausing for snacks and chats.
When we reached the almost-summit of the trail, we saw a pretty, secluded lochan nestled between mountainous crags with its own ledge overhanging the water. This was the chosen spot.
Ivan and Alice’s ceremony unfolded tenderly, balancing giving them both space with keeping things flowing. Everyone felt included. Ivan’s best friend, Vince, and Alice’s niece, Maddie, shared words throughout the ceremony. They had chosen an Oathing Stone for Alice and Ivan; beautifully describing how the ancient gneiss stone was a fitting choice to reflect the permanence and respectful love between them both, with its seams of pink and grey bands, forged and shaped over time.
In a moment of peaceful grounding at the start of the ceremony, Alice and Ivan placed all four hands on their Oathing Stone. Then they placed the stone on the earth close to them, as is tradition.
Together, we reflected on the journey Ivan and Alice had shared. How their paths first crossed and what drew them to each other; how “outrageously handsome, outdoorsy, interesting – and incredibly French” Ivan seemed to Alice, and how “super cute, fun and smart” Alice seemed to Ivan.
We heard how Alice met Ivan during the darkest of times and saw a light in him. How he taught her to have fun, explore and make the most of life with the people she loves, nurturing a love for being in nature, that had always been there but that hadn’t been given the time and space to grow. How in Ivan she found what she was looking for; a source of love and life that was just for her.
We heard how Ivan’s love for Alice deepened over time without him even questioning it. How when he paused to consider it, he realised with absolute certainty that he loved Alice deeply and did not want to lose her.
As the water lapped gently beneath them and the sun shone bright above them, Alice and Ivan shared emotional, personal vows with each other.
In a moment of peaceful tranquility, they made their Marriage Vows to one another and sealed their vows with a kiss.
Vince and Maddie each gave a personal blessing to Alice and Ivan before everyone toasted their Marriage with a shared drink from the Quaich.
After hugs and joyful tears, we all signed the Marriage Schedule (always fun in these outdoor settings!).
Alice and Ivan returned their Oathing Stone to the water as everyone prepared to enjoy a picnic in that beautiful place.
Your Oathing Stone will bear witness to your ceremony today, carrying stories of your time together, of your love and commitment. After the ceremony, you will return the stone to the loch where this Oathing Stone will begin its own journey, a symbol of your love that will exist beyond the lives of all of us here today.
After enjoying a peaceful afternoon together, the wedding party made their way back to their holiday flat for a celebratory dinner. As Alice said to me afterwards, “The whole day was beautiful and we are both on Cloud Nine.”
Alice and Ivan, thank you for trusting me with your wedding adventure, for being so open to the elements and to enjoying the ebb and flow of the day. It was the most glorious way to share time with you both, with Maddie and Vince, and I’m so honoured to have been able to lead your ceremony for you in this wild and windswept place.
A thousand blessings to you both in your lives together!
Thank you to Maddie for sharing some of these lovely photos.
Unbeknownst to Marianne and Shelley, their worlds had been circling each other for many years … Marianne working security at Shelley’s end of year university dance … them both sharing several mutual friends. It was as though the universe had been nudging them towards each other.
Marianne’s first glimpse of Shelley was a whole decade before they first met. Shelley was working behind the counter in HMV and Marianne was struck by Shelley’s individuality and coolness – her coordinated wristbands, belt and trainers – and her grumpy-grungey attitude. Being too shy at the time to actually say anything, Marianne spent the only money she had on a DVD that she didn’t even want just so she could talk to Shelley.
At the time and by her own admission, Shelley was not really looking outward back then. She was “moody, finding herself” and she wasn’t really paying much attention to the world around her. The fact that she didn’t look up, didn’t even say goodbye as Marianne left the shop, didn’t matter. Marianne remembered Shelley … and almost a decade later, when they were both at a friend’s BBQ, she was brave enough to say hello.
Marianne and Shelley both say that their first conversation together was “unexpectedly lovely”. They instantly realised that they had so much in common and they felt a draw towards each other. Their first months of getting to know each other were, in their words, “warm and easy, and we felt like we’d known each other for years.”
Celebrating these two kind-hearted people in a ceremony that was authentic and true to who they are as individuals, and as a couple, was such beautiful fun.
Shelley and Marianne chose to make their Marriage vows to one another on Gairloch Beach, a place where they had shared many meaningful times and where Shelley proposed after months of carrying a ring around as she prepared to surprise Marianne at the perfect moment (check out their gorgeous proposal video).
We were lucky to have the beach almost entirely to ourselves as we walked together to a sheltered spot beneath the rocks – just the two brides, their friend who was their first witness and who was capturing the day in photos for them both, myself as celebrant, and a dear friend who was attending as their second witness.
Their ceremony was intimate and relaxed, unfolding over several hours as we enjoyed pauses to give Marianne and Shelley time to warm up and enjoy each other’s company, and to drink in the magical feeling of that wild and windswept place.
Marianne and Shelley, it’s clear that you are soulmates. Your love for each other has been special from the outset. It is intense, and deep, and continues to grow everyday. Your relationship is strong because you are honest with each other, you share how you both feel, even if one of you is having an off day. You support each other constantly, taking time out to discuss things, no matter how trivial.
Maz, you are headstrong and can be quick to jump into things, whereas Shelley you are more practical and take time to mull things over. Shelley, you are quick and comedic, you enjoy winding Maz up. And Maz, by your own admission, you are slower and more naive, unwittingly hilarious.
You bounce off each other, and even though your personalities are very different, they combine to give you a unique pairing that is full of fun, laughter and – at points – perfect weirdness!
Shelly and Maz, your love feels rare. In your words, “we are 100% made for each other.”
Marianne and Shelley listened to recordings shared by loved ones wishing them well for their future together. I shared words about how they found each other, how they support and complement each other, and their hopes and dreams for the future. It was at times poignant and loving, hilarious and heartfelt.
They shared personal words that they had written in secret for each other then gifted each other a ring as a symbol of their everlasting love.
Marianne, your laughter is the soundtrack to my life. Every single day you heal something you did not break. Throughout my life, some people have been chapters, but you are my entire story. Sometimes I think I might even need a spare heart to feel all the things I feel for you.
Shelley, I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope, and every dream I’ve ever had.
As the sun shone and the wind whipped seafoam ribbons across the sand, Marianne and Shelley made their Marriage vows to one another with a traditional Handfasting. Their tied their Eternity knot and sealed their vows with a kiss.
Following these declarations made before me, on this beautiful beach, Shelley and Marianne, it is my happy duty to pronounce you wife and wife!
We brought the ceremony to a close with a toast by the water. Then Marianne and Shelley headed off on their just married adventures, exploring the coast they love so much.
A thousand blessings to you both, Marianne and Shelley. I have loved getting to know you both and it was such a privilege to be your celebrant. Thank you for trusting me with your ceremony. I look forward to catching up over a Hazy Jane and a walk when you are next in Gairloch!
Thank you to Lucy for bracing the elements as second witness, and thank you so much to Gary at Gary Bayne Photography for these sweet photos that perfectly convey the emotions of Shelley and Marianne’s wild and windswept Wester Ross wedding.
Nestled beneath the mighty Torridon mountains, on the shores of a sea loch, is the open air church of Am Ploc, Torridon. This historic site of worship is now a tranquil and idyllic gathering point and the perfect place for an intimate and elemental wedding ceremony.
Kim and Dan travelled to Scotland to make their Marriage vows between earth and sky, and by mountains and water, with their dearest family as their witnesses. They chose this location because it reflected their love of Scotland, the outdoors, and the many epic adventures they have had hiking, enjoying nature, exploring castles and seeking out all the interesting history that’s tucked away across the country.
We began their ceremony with some reflections of their time together: from the beginning of their journey when their paths first crossed at 17 and 19, how they fell in love one weekend adventure at a time, and all that they have shared in their fourteen years together.
You’ve had so many wonderful times and you’ve been there for each other through some challenging moments. You have helped each other make big and brave decisions, you’ve supported each other through university, taken up new jobs, made a home together, and discovered new things about yourselves and each other.
You make each other smile everyday and in your words, “We are each other’s best friend and we’ve grown as people as we’ve grown together. From the beginning, our relationship has felt right and peaceful and like coming home.”
It was important to Kim and Dan that we gather their loved ones into their ceremony. Given they are both keen growers and their garden at home is one of the places they love most to share time, we invited Dan and Kim’s friends and family to take part in a symbolic Clootie Tree ritual.
Everyone present was invited to pause for a moment, to enjoy the peaceful tranquility of that special place, to consider the loving and binding commitments Kim and Dan were choosing to make to one another.
They each chose a ribbon that had been hand-dyed by Kim, held the ribbon close to their heart and imbued in it any blessings or well-wishing thoughts they have for Kim and Dan. Then when they were ready they sealed their blessings by dipping the ribbon in some water from the sea loch and tying their ‘cloot’ to Kim and Dan’s wedding fig tree.
Dan and Kim, you have chosen a fig tree as your Clootie Tree. Fig trees are steeped in ancient meaning and have long symbolised wisdom, knowledge and enlightenment.
The fig’s ability to bear fruit throughout the year also represents sustenance, continuity, and the cycle of life and I know you are looking forward to seeing your fig tree grow and bear fruits as your relationship continues to grow and you continue to discover and enjoy your shared journey.
It is believed that the roots of the Fig tree represent the past, its trunk the present, and its branches the future to come. How beautiful then that your families can tie their cloots and wishes to your fig tree, onto branches that represent your future together.
As the wind blows the cloots, all your good wishes shall be released and carried into the world. And, when each cloot eventually frays to nothing, that marks the fulfilment of each wish.
Dan and Kim spoke loving declarations to each other as their hands were fasted, honouring the ancient tradition of Handfasting, and reflecting the loyalty and friendship, respect and hope, trust and love that they feel for one another.
These are the hands that together will continue to build a life for you both that is centered on love and rich in caring.
These are the hands that will touch you with love and tenderness through the years, and will comfort you like no others’ can and will hold your family together.
These are the hands that will always be healer, protector, shelter and guide for each other.
These are the hands that will be reaching for yours tomorrow, and the next day, and forevermore.
They made their Marriage Vows to one another as they gifted each other a ring, promising that their lives – their pasts, presents and futures – be forever entwined in commitment and intention.
Dan and Kim celebrated with a just married toast in their wedding Quaich. They sealed their vows with a kiss as their family and friends toasted their love with a drink from the miniature Quaichs Kim and Dan had gifted to them.
It was an honour to hold space for Kim and Dan and their warm, embracing family and friends. It was a privilege to witness this sweet, kind-hearted couple make their life promises to one another.
Kim and Dan, thank you for trusting me with your ceremony. I wish you a thousand blessings in your lives together. May you have many wonderful adventures in the years to come, with all the great walks, epic talks, love and happiness you could wish for. Slàinte Mhaith!
We gathered beneath the shelter of the pines in Abernethy Forest as Storm Babet swept across Scotland. Wren’s welcome to the world and naming ceremony was possibly the rainiest ceremony I’ve had the honour to lead in all my years of celebranting. The rain only added to the fun for this small but mighty little one as she splashed about us in her wellie boots and rainsuit, enjoying the puddles.
“Wren’s Naming Day is about bringing everyone we love together in one place so that we can all celebrate her arrival and share in her joy.”
It is said that rain brings good fortune and the blessings given to Wren by her close family and guide parents were at the heart of her celebration. Absent loved ones were honoured at the start of the ceremony with special mention to Pa, Wren’s great grandpa, whose camera was used to capture memories for everyone present.
“Wren’s parents had been looking for a place they could call their own, a place in nature where they could find their own church, to celebrate and honour Wren. They both feel that this woodland in the heart of Scotland, encircled by misty mountains and beautiful lochs with its magical, storybook feel, is perfect for celebrating Wren, their wild and windswept daughter.”
A mixed faith gathering, we began the ceremony with a family reading of a prayer. Then we all paused for a moment of peaceful reflection, passing a blessings jar around the gathering. Everyone was invited, as they held the jar, to imbue in it any well-wishing thoughts or silent prayers that they had for Wren.
Beth Sutton Photography
We shared stories of Wren’s wild-spirited character: how she is such a happy, positive, bubbly child with a cackle that makes you laugh and stories that make you smile; how she is a lover of stones and singing, colouring and rainbows.
We heard that Wren’s parents named her in honour of her much-loved great grandmother, and her great great grandmothers, who were named after, and loved, birds. After all, wrens are small, cheerful and loud, which entirely suits their little one.
It felt important to Wren’s mum to include some ‘witchy’ practices in Wren’s ceremony, as she has long taken comfort from Wiccan practices. Wren’s parents welcomed her to the world with a blessings ritual. They gifted Wren her blessings jar filled with items that symbolise love, courage, creativity and confidence.
May the strength of the wind and the light of the sun,
The softness of the rain and the mystery of the moon
Reach you and fill you.
May beauty delight you and happiness uplift you,
May wonder fulfil you and love surround you,
May your step be ready and your arm be strong,
May your heart be peaceful and your word be true.
May you seek to learn, may you learn to live,
May you seek to love, and may you love always.
Welcome to the world, Wren!
We combined two beautiful Celtic traditions: a Handfasting to symbolise love, loyalty and connection, and the tying of a Cloot to make a wish or send a prayer or blessing to the individual or family being honoured.
Wren’s dear family and friends were invited to make a beautiful dream catcher for Wren as a symbolic keepsake, to create something protective, nurturing and beautiful that Wren can hang in her bedroom window.
“Over time, as the wind blows and Wren sleeps and plays beneath her dreamcatcher, all your good wishes will be released and carried into the world. And, when each Cloot eventually frays to nothing, that marks the fulfilment of each wish.”
Wren’s guide parents each gifted her a pebble (Wren loves pebbles!) as they made their life promises to Wren to protect and nurture her.
We closed the ceremony with a Quaich ritual. This was made all the more special for the Celtic blessing toast being shared by Wren’s granddad who was braving the elements alongside us all despite his ailing health.
Everyone took a warming sip of whisky and we all cheered Wren’s future as the wind whipped about us and the rain splashed down.
We all agreed that Wren’s celebration was the perfect way to honour this most wild-spirited, curious and joyful of beings. It was an absolute joy to share time with Wren and her family and I wish her all the wonder and magic for the future.
Thank you to Holly and Ciaran, Wren’s parents, for sharing these gorgeous details of Wren’s day with us all. Thank you to Beth Sutton Photography for the sweet photographs.
Sanju and Ruaridh first met on the famous ‘white coat pub crawl’ in their first week of Edinburgh University where they were both studying to be doctors. There were about 140 trainee medics, all wearing their white coats, and all touring the pubs of Edinburgh en masse. Apparently the medical school lecturers told the students at the time that a proportion of them would meet their future partners within that group. And, well, seven years later, we were all honoured and delighted to be celebrating Sanju and Ruaridh’s marriage in a gorgeously heartfelt and humorous ceremony at Carlowrie Castle near Edinburgh.
The weeks preceding Ruaridh and Sanju’s wedding were ones of wild storms and heavy rainfall. For a while, it was touch and go whether Sanju’s family, many of whom were travelling from India, would be able to make the journey. A blessing then, that on the day itself the skies cleared and the sun shone, and despite the road to the castle being flooded in parts, every one of their friends and family were able to celebrate with them.
As Agnostic Scotland Marriage Celebrants, our role is to create and hold a shared space for a couple and their family and friends. An Agnostic ceremony is open-minded, inclusive and respectful of the shared and varied beliefs of everyone gathered. For Sanju and Ruaridh, this was especially important to them, given Ruaridh’s Scottish heritage and Sanju’s Indian heritage. Their wish was to make their life promises to each other in a shared ceremony that reflected and respected the values, traditions, and culture handed down by their previous generations. Like their marriage, Ruaridh and Sanju’s ceremony was a beautiful blend of two individuals, two cultures and two communities.
The ceremony began with Sanju’s parents, Cynthia and Vijay, accompanying her down the wedding aisle in a gesture of love and support.
After welcoming everyone into the gathering, we paused for a peaceful moment to reflect on the dear, absent loved ones who Sanju and Ruaridh were choosing to hold in their thoughts and hearts. Then Sanju’s brother, Sanjay, and Ruaridh’s brother, Aidan, lifted everyone’s spirits with an excellent rendition of one of Sanju and Ruaridh’s favourite comics.
Calvin: What’s it like to fall in love?
Hobbes: Well… say the object of your affection walks by…
Calvin: Yeah?
Hobbes: First, your heart falls into your stomach and splashes your innards. All the moisture makes you sweat profusely. This condensation shorts the circuits to your brain and you get all woozy. When your brain burns out altogether, your mouth disengages and you babble like a cretin until she leaves.
Calvin: THAT’S LOVE?!?
Hobbes: Medically speaking.
Calvin: Heck, that happened to me once, but I figured it was cooties!
An extract from Calvin and Hobbes by Bill Watterson
I shared the story of how Ruaridh and Sanju found each other: how Sanju thought of Ruaridh as a nice boy who was both very tall and very Scottish with his bright red hair and distinctive accent; and how Ruaridh thought of Sanju as the very pretty girl who he was far too nervous to talk to. We heard how Ruaridh totally stole the show for Sanju in the fourth year medics comedy show and how, a few months later, when Sanju was sitting in the computer lab pretending to work – when actually she was watching Buffy on her iPad and flicking through the online dating app, Tinder – she realised that she had been matched with Ruaridh. Of course, she swiped right …
Derek Christie Photography
We reflected on times Sanju and Ruaridh had shared, adventures they had enjoyed and all that they had supported each other through. With their permission, I revealed some secret thoughts that Ruaridh and Sanju had written for each other – the sweet, poignant and hilarious – about their love and connection.
We paused for a moment of peaceful reflection during which time, Sanju and Ruaridh prepared for their vows and their friends and family were invited to say a silent prayer or send a well-wishing thought or blessing to them both.
Ruaridh and Sanju read their vows from scrolls, speaking personal words to each other, reflecting on the many ways that they continue to enrich each other’s lives and their hopes and dreams for the future. They gifted each other a ring with the words “You’ll do!” inscribed on the inside of each band (a longstanding joke between the two of them).
Derek Christie Photography
I have the joy of being with someone who makes every day special, makes the boring things fun and who picks me up when I am not at my best. Every day I am thankful for your kindness, your love and, yes, your patience. I feel so fortunate to know that I am with someone who I can rely on to stand by me in any situation and who pushes me to be the best I can be.
I love you so much and if you give me the chance I will spend the rest of my life making you feel as special as you make me feel.
Ruaridh and Sanju
I vow to be faithful and show up for you every day. I vow to appreciate you, our relationship, and be grateful for the wonderful memories we have made and those that we have to come. I promise to stand by you when times are difficult and life throws us challenges. I promise to try and make you laugh, because moments of happiness and joy can be found even in the darkest of days. Whether that is on purpose or because of my constant clumsiness I can’t say.
Finally… I promise to never take you for granted.
Sanju and Ruaridh
In honour of the Indian tradition, Sanju and Ruaridh gifted each other a garland as a symbol of their acceptance of each other in life and love.
They sealed their Marriage Vows with a Celtic Handfasting with two scarves; one representing Ruaridh and his family, and one symbolising Sanju and her family.
Derek Christie Photography
While we signed the Marriage Schedule – that little piece of paper that says ‘I love you’- Ruaridh’s father, Andrew, said a few words for the newlyweds then played wonderful music with Aisling and Caitlin, Ruaridh’s cousins.
We closed the ceremony with a reading about love and a Quaich ritual: Ruaridh and Sanju both declaring the honesty and trust in their relationship by sharing a sip of whisky from their wedding Quaich.
It was an absolute joy to lead Ruaridh and Sanju’s ceremony. Their ceremony captures everything I value about being an Agnostic Scotland celebrant; creating a ceremony that reflects the personalities, values, shared beliefs and customs of the people involved; bringing people together in a way that feels right and meaningful for everyone.
I was so happy that, after the ceremony, Sanju and Ruaridh’s parents each gave me a tearful hug and expressed their happiness at having been part of such a warm, inclusive ceremony. I couldn’t agree more … it was an absolute joy to be a part of Ruaridh and Sanju’s beautiful, effervescent day and I’m over the moon for them both.
Thank you so much, Ruaridh and Sanju, for sharing these sweet details with us all. We wish you a thousand blessings in your lives together.
Thank you to fabulous photographer and all-round lovely person, Derek Christie, for sharing these stunning photos.
Happy New Year, Everyone! I hope this year brings you wonderful times. I’m excited to bring in the new year with a beautiful blog showcasing some of the places close to where I live in Wester Ross.
A wild wedding isn’t for everyone but if you are planning an outdoor ceremony in the Scottish Highlands, somewhere away from the beaten track, then Wester Ross is an ideal location.
This remote northwestern corner of the Highlands boasts some of the most spectacular scenery in Scotland and is far less busy in peak season than the usual ‘go-to’ Scottish elopement destinations such as Glencoe and Skye. From sandy beaches and ancient forests to dramatic sea lochs and mountain ranges, there are many beautiful and secluded places that are perfect for an outdoor wedding.
Can I legally get married anywhere in Scotland?
In Scotland, it is possible to make your legally binding Marriage vows to one another in any location – even if that location is simply a sat nav reference. Provided you have the landowners permission in areas where it is required, this means the entire landscape opens up to you.
For those who prefer an accessible spot, you can choose any one of the epic viewpoints scattered across our beautiful country. Walk less than 50 metres from a quiet road or car park and you can feel like you are in the heart of the wilds. The above photograph, for example, has been snapped at a spot that is a few minutes and a short scramble from a single-track road above Loch Torridon, and yet it has the same breathtaking wonder and dramatic views of a secluded place one might have discovered after a long hike.
Accessible weddings in the outdoors
Depending on your wedding party, it may be necessary to have wheelchair access, or a relatively flat surface leading to your ceremony location. It is absolutely possible to find locations that might suit your needs. I’ve highlighted four beautiful spots that might be suitable.
Gairloch Beach
Gairloch Beach is a calm, sheltered beach with a backdrop of dunes and woodland and stunning views of the nearby islands. There is a wooden boadwalk from the car park to the beach, making it easier for wheelchair access. There are also community toilets in the car park. For those wishing to climb above the beach, there is a gorgeous view point overlooking the bay and Gairloch that is especially lovely in autumn when the woods and heather moorland are aflame with russets, ochres and golds.
Torridon
Torridon is a small, pretty village nestled beneath the epic Beinn Eighe, Beinn Alligin and Liathach mountain ranges. A short walk from the cafe at the heart of Torridon is the sacred open air church of Am Ploc, on the banks of a sea loch. This is a place steeped in local history and you can feel its quiet hush as soon as you enter. Am Ploc is a perfect setting for a private elopement or an intimate family ceremony and, while not wheelchair accessible, it is a low-level walk of less than ten minutes from the village.
When we met you spoke of the feeling of familiarity you had when you connected through that first kiss. The feeling of a love between two old souls being renewed, rekindled. It was as though you had found each other again, and you were meant to be together. You have since shared a deep knowingness in the rightness of your connection. Today, you are choosing to affirm your love and deep connection by making sacred and eternal vows to one another.
Florentine and Roy – married at Am Ploc, Torridon
Mellon Udrigle Beach– Camas a’Charaig
The crystal clear, turquoise waters and silver sands of Mellon Udrigle make it a firm favourite. A perfect swim and nature-watching spot, this beach has big skies and panoramic views of the Assynt and Coigach mountains, and the Summer Isles. There is a wooden boardwalk leading from the car park to the sandy beach. Here you could make your life promises on a narrow spit of land encircled by the beach on one side and the crystal waters of Gruinard Bay on the other, with the Highland mountains stretched out all around you.
For those up for a wedding wander
Rather than choosing one location, you might prefer your ceremony to unfold along a beautiful hike with your closest family and friends. A kind of magic happens on these wedding wanders; all the conversations, laughter, scenery and exhilaration of the day are threaded into the ceremony, creating an authentic and memorable wedding adventure.
We might begin your ceremony in one of the remnant ancient woodlands that populate the west coast, then walk on to pause by a lochside and reflect on the journey you have shared as a couple so far. We could journey on to witness you making your Marriage promises to each other beneath the boughs of an ancient tree, then share in your first toast as a married couple on a hill top (or even a mountain top for the adventurers). The options are limitless and can be adapted to the skills and hiking experience of the wedding party.
It is hard to not be awed by the pink sands of Red Point South beach and panoramic views of the Torridon mountains, the isles of Rona, Skye and the Outer Hebrides.
This beach is a fifteen-minute, muddy walk from the car park at Red Point, ten miles south of Gairloch. For those happy to embrace the mud, it is well worth the effort. Great northern divers, dolphins and sea eagles are frequent visitors to this dramatic double-crescent beach. At low tide, there is a grassy knoll dividing the beach that makes for a fabulous ceremony location and picnic spot. It is also possible to walk to Red Point South from the northern beach at Red Point, incorporating a stunning headland walk of around two hours into your day. Here’s a shimmering seas clip with views of the beach taken along that walk.
A quicker route takes you from the car park directly through the dunes to Red Point North beach, which is also beautiful.
The Fairy Pools at Badachro
Three miles above the pretty bay by the Shieldaig Lodge Hotel, near Badachro, are a series of lochans: Na Lochan Sgeireach, known as the Fairy Pools. While the walk up is steep and can be very boggy, this is an ethereal place that feels almost otherworldly in its beauty. Even in summer this is a quiet destination (possibly because of the rugged path) and it’s possible to discover you are the only person walking among these lochans.
Being in nature is perfect. Here we are invited to respond to the shifting moods of the world around us, to be authentic and free. There is an ancient Celtic expression: thin places: places where the veil between two worlds is gossamer thin, places that bring you closer to the divine, the spiritual, where thought falls away and only a luminous feeling remains. Places where we can be our true, essential selves. This Wester Ross landscape, with its enchanting wilderness of water and rock, is surely such a place. The perfect place for you to make your sacred and eternal vows to one another.
Loch Maree and the Beinn Eighe Nature Reserve
Another glorious ceremony location is beside Loch Maree; the fourth largest freshwater loch and arguably the most dramatic in Scotland. Here you could make your vows amidst the ancient Caledonian Pine Forest overlooking the loch, nestled beneath the towering Beinn Eighe mountain range.
Simone Smith Photography
There is a steep waymarked three hour trail at Loch Maree, the Beinn Eighe Mountain Trail, which is an easy route to follow, and one that brings great rewards in both adventure and views, for those who do fancy a hike.
There are pretty spots all along the lochside for those who prefer to stay at ground level.
The Kernsary Loop by Poolewe is a picturesque 10km low-level walk of around three hours that takes in some breathtaking scenery. While permission would be required for a ceremony to be held here, this walk showcases some of the very finest of Wester Ross scenery; lochs, mountains, ancient trees and red deer! There are so many places like this across Wester Ross.
For the outward bounders … Glen Torridonhikes
Of course, Wester Ross is renowned for the mighty Torridons; mountains considered to be among the most dramatic peaks in the UK, made of some of the oldest rocks in the world.
While scaling a munro might not be everyone’s idea of a fun wedding day, there are gorgeous locations across Glen Torridon for those who are keen to incorporate a lower level hike into their wedding day … Some with the welcome option of a post-ceremony freshwater swim.
This pretty spot by the river (below) is a short, gradually inclining hike of around 30-minutes along a well-established path from the car park above Torridon.
Loch Coire Mhic Fhearchair
A longer hike up the valley leads to the breathtaking Loch Coire Mhic Fhearchair, an impressive corrie with a lochan enclosed by three almost vertical giant rock buttresses, including Beinn Eighe’s Triple Buttress, and with awesome views over the valley below.
I hope this has given you some insight into why Wester Ross is known for having some of the finest mountain and coastal scenery in the UK. Whether you are looking for a location that is a short stroll from the car, or are up for scaling the nearest hill, if you are keen to elope to the wilds of Wester Ross, I’d be delighted to chat with you. Please do get in touch.
Thank you to the lovely couples who gave their permission for their photos to be used in this blog, and thank you to the photographers for the fab pics.
Things to consider – the small print
In Scotland, it’s important to be mindful of the weather and always have a back up plan in case it’s blowing a hoolie. All hiking or wedding wanders are enjoyed at the couple’s discretion and risk. While I can help with recommending kit, provisions and clothing, it is essential that hikes undertaken match the level of expertise and experience of those involved. For anyone wishing to enlist a mountain guide (I always suggest this for the more epic munro hikes) then I can put you in touch with some excellent local guides. And, for anyone considering an outdoor ceremony in Scotland, you do need to be aware that on damp days with no wind during May-September midges can be an issue. Being near the coast or choosing a more elevated position will make all the difference in keeping midges at bay, if they are about.
Wester Ross has some beautiful venues too
In addition to all these fabulous outdoor locations, there are some incredible wedding venues for larger gatherings and so many excellent places to stay. I hope to share details in a future blog post.
Iwona and Kate, I know you are proud and overjoyed to be standing here today, surrounded by the people who care deeply for you and who are delighted to share in the happiness of your union, as you declare your love and make your life promises to one another.
Kate and Iwona
When I first met Kate and Iwona, they were preparing for the arrival of their son. It was a beautiful privilege to get to know them at such a special time as they attended my birth preparation course. So, it was such a lovely honour to be invited by them, two years after the birth of their little boy, to lead their wedding ceremony.
On the morning of their wedding, the plan had been to gather by Dunsapie Loch on Arthur’s Seat but, as she so often will, Edinburgh was blowing a hoolie. So, instead we gathered at the creative community hub at Summerhall in Edinburgh, which felt apt given that Kate is a lecturer and Iwona an artist.
Kate and Iwona’s closest friends arrived with boxes of handmade decorations, fizz and confetti. We decorated the lecture hall with a chalk flower arch on the blackboard and twinkling candles. Then an intimate gathering of Kate and Iwona’s dear friends and family filled the room with their loving presence.
Iwona and Kate’s ceremony was calm, joyful, emotional and loving. We spoke of the feeling of instant connection they shared when they met in a Leith pub many moons ago, the strong pull towards each other and a comfort, ease and happiness that made the rest of the world fall away whenever they were in each other’s company.
We have both found a place we completely belong. We are each other’s home.
We heard stories of Kate and Iwona’s time together, how nature and the sea have been an accepting and silent witness to their love and the strengthening of their bond. From the white sands and blustery winds of East Lothian where they have enjoyed so many adventures together, to their engagement in the wilds of Angus on the windswept Lunan Bay.
We heard how Iwona and Kate are proud to have created a loving family home where they can dance, sing, cook, laugh and share with friends and family. And how the magical journey of becoming parents together has deepened their love and strengthened their bond.
Yours is a story of two hearts and a gorgeous family. A story of two people who simply could not be without each other. In choosing love, you have had to overcome and learn to live with many challenges. Ultimately, yours is a brave and heartening story of two people who have faced these barriers together and who now feel love, joy and peace in all that you share.
Iwona and Kate’s friends sang the most incredible rendition of Into my Arms by Nick Cave and The Bad Seeds; a songthat shares something of the certainty, power and need for love between two people. An especially poignant song as it was also the song that welcomed Kate and Iwona’s son into the world. During the music, we passed Iwona and Kate’s wedding bands around the gathering, so that each person could hold them close to their heart and bless them with their well-wishing thoughts.
Iwona and Kate spoke heartfelt vows to each other, affirming each other as their one true love and declaring their wish to be equal life partners for all time to come.
The hall resounded with cheers as everyone celebrated through their happy tears and Iwona and Kate sealed their Marriage vows with a kiss. Then we all toasted Iwona, Kate and their little boy with a fizz toast to wish them all well in their life together.
Kate and Iwona, it has been such a gift getting to know you both. Thank you for trusting me with your ceremony. So much love to you all and congratulations to you both!
Kate and Steve, you spoke of the feeling of familiarity you had when you connected all those moons ago at the crossroads between your two Leith homes. A feeling of comfort and ease between you both, it was as though you were meant to be together. You have since shared a deep knowingness in the rightness of your connection. Today, you are choosing to affirm your love and connection by making eternal vows to one another.
It was an absolute joy to accompany Steve and Kate on their wedding adventure in the North West Scottish Highlands. We met at the foothills of Stac Pollaidh on a day of fleeting sunlight and blustery clouds. Their wish was to savour every moment of their ceremony as it unfolded on a hike through the Assynt landscape; an enchanting wilderness of water and rock with mountains among the oldest in Scotland. Their wedding party was intimate: just the two of them, their two brilliant photographers, Raini and Dave, and me.
We set off at noon ascending steadily through heather and mixed woodland to reach open moorland. The stony path to the summit curves beneath the towering flanks and spire pinnacles of the mountain and it wasn’t long before the wind buffeted us as we climbed.
Pausing on a rocky outcrop, we took in the spectacular views of Sgùrr Tuath across Loch Lurgainn below and of Cul Beag to the east. Then we began the ceremony with an Oathing Stone ritual.
It is an ancient Celtic belief that vows made in the presence of water and stone are especially binding. Today, you have chosen to include an Oathing Stone in honour of this ancient belief. This is a very special stone as it is one that has come from Germany. This stone brings to mind memories of a loving family home, long woodland walks, getting lost in the forest and listening to the many jokes and colourful language of your grandfather. This stone is a blessing, a connection to Germany and Kate’s roots, and I invite you to both place your hands on your Oathing Stone now.
As Kate and Steve held their Oathing Stone, they reflected on the journey that had brought them to that place and that moment. I shared an Apache blessing that had special meaning for them both. Then they placed the stone on the earth close to them, as is tradition.
It was important to Kate that their wedding ceremony include honouring the memory of her beloved dog, Toby, who had been her close companion for eleven years. In the wide expanse of that beautiful place, Steve and Kate released Toby’s ashes into the wind, so that he may always be a part of their special day.
We climbed again to a plateau on the north side of Stac Pollaidh, overlooking the mighty Suilven, where we heard stories of Steve and Kate’s time together – the highs, the lows, the hilarious, the loving. I then shared secret thoughts that Kate and Steve had shared with me when I asked them about their love and connection.
As we reached the summit, the five of us took shelter from the wind to enjoy delicious snacks and revel in the peaceful surroundings. Then Kate and Steve made their way to a rocky outcrop to make private, personal vows to each other and gift each other a ring.
In that elemental place, Steve and Kate made their Marriage declarations to each other with a Handfasting, sealing their life vows with two eternity knots.
“As I give you my hand, so I give you my heart. Anywhere, I will follow you. My heart is your heart, my soul is your soul, now and forevermore.”
I can’t think of a more perfect way to honour a life commitment than along a relaxed wander through a wild place. To be invited to share in Kate and Steve’s day was a great privilege and it was my absolute joy to declare them both married with the mountains and lochs, and Raini and Dave, as their witnesses.
We celebrated their marriage with a whisky toast from the Quaich in a peaceful spot on the wander down the hill. Then Kate and Steve danced together into their married future before heading to enjoy a wedding feast in Lochinver.
Sending so much love and congratulations to you both, Kate and Steve. Thank you for trusting me with your wedding adventure and for sharing these details of your epic day with us all.
Onie Tibbitt, Agnostic Scotland Celebrant 